I’m pretty much always on a quest to improve myself. Sure, there are times when I wallow in my mediocrity or take unnecessary pleasure in being bad. But for the most part, I swear, I’m working on it.
And I feel like I’m doing a pretty decent job of it. In fact, that’s why I celebrate getting older. Each year, it gets a bit easier to be the new and improved me. “If I’m this great at 35, just wait till I’m 50!” I think to myself.
Just kidding.
Sort of.
Anyhoo, I’ve read a couple of things lately that got me thinking about the person I want to be. I read this post by Seth Godin. I recognized myself in it. Yes, I said recognized, as in past tense. I used to amplify like a maniac. Not so much anymore. But it’s hard work, not being like that. It’s a conscious choice that must be made, many times each day.
I also read this post by Rachel Held Evans. In it, she talks about the character traits she wants to develop. But she used a phrase that, for some reason, really resonated with me. She used the phrase “default setting.” And it inspired me to make a list of what I want my default settings to be.
I’m going to imagine that everything I do is controlled by little switches, and that with each thought and action, I can choose to flip, or not flip, a switch that will affect the outcome. Just to be safe, I’m going to put my switches on the desired default setting in the beginning. Here’s what my defaults will be:
- accepting, not judgmental
- patient, not hasty
- leisurely, not harried
- quiet, not loud
- thoughtful, not careless
- attentive, not inconsiderate
- satisfied, not hungry
- informed, not ignorant
- calm, not irritable
- energetic, not tired
- rational, not crazy
- grounded, not flighty
- present, not disconnected
- on task, not scattered
- loving, not disdainful
- generous, not stingy
- adventurous, not timid
- rich, not impoverished
Sheesh, keeping those default settings is going to be hard work. But I’m up to the task. In fact, I may even come back and add more from time to time.
What about you? What are your default settings?